Done!
I officially handed in my letter of resignation yesterday. I'm starting at the new place on June 4th. I only have one more trip planned for the day after memorial day. I will miss some of the people here - but not working here.
Resigning was surprisingly short and sweet. I think I talked to the manager for a grand total of about 30 seconds. I told him that I was leaving and when my last day was, he asked "what happened?" and then if he could do anything to convince me to stay. I understand why someone would say that, but I think it's such a bad idea. If a person was just looking for a new job to get more money, and then you offer them more money, what's going to stop them leaving in another few months when they get another job offer for even more money? The base problems for what that employee was looking at other positions would more than likely still exist. The only way that I would consider it (not here of course - but in general) is if there was a major problem that was solvable and that problem was solved in order to get me to stay. I of course told him no, and then explained that I had already accepted another position and that it would be unprofessional of me to overturn that decision to stay.
I'm excited and the new place is excited about me starting. Here's to hoping that everything works out.
I think that jobs are a bit like dating. Something may look really good on paper and looks like it has everything that you want. The first couple of dates go really well and everything looks good there are no major road blocks, but then once people relax into the new relationship the bad stuff starts raining down. That grace period where both parties are still in love with each other varies in terms of time (just like dating different people) sometimes it's a few dates before the shit starts to hit the fan, sometimes it never really goes away and both people are just happy. I think my first company was like one of those relationships that's a bit awkward at first, but then it really blossoms into something great. After a while though, I think both of our habits started bugging the other person and we just needed to break up we weren't meant for the long term. My second company is like one of those dates that is really really really awkward then you keep trying to date in hopes that it will become better, but it never really does. Then the bad parts of each person come out quickly and you realize that the two of you are very poorly matched and it's just not going to work.
It really reminds me of one of the guys I dated in high school, Dan. Man, does that relationship really parallel my current work relationship. He was a weird kid, I liked some of the quirkiness, but some of it was just really strange too. Most dates were pretty normal - we'd go to the movies, go walking in the park and talk, go out to eat, make out afterwards, normal date stuff.
Then he went off to college and I was still in high school. At the time I was working at a pizza parlor part time. He would do really strange things that I think he thought was romantic, but really just turned out to be strange. Multiple times he would drive back from college for the weekend to see me, but he wouldn't tell me that he was planning on coming back. He would just order a pizza on his way home - not tell my coworkers who he was - and then just come pick it up and say hi and ask me to stop by after work. I think it was his way of trying to surprise me and be romantic, but it just felt a little creepy at the time.
I'm pretty sure I was a complete bitch to him, he totally didn't see it when I broke up with him. It was my senior year and I was in total lust over another boy (I'm still not sure that I'm completely over boy number 2 - It's still very confusing emotionally - he's the only guy I've ever met that I've had jump back an forth between my two ladders - multiple times) and really didn't want to have him meet my friends. He even asked if it was another guy - and I told him no. Which to some extent was true, I wasn't dating another boy, I was just completely lusting after him. I thought (rightfully) that if I was embarrassed to have him meet my friends - I thought that he was a little too weird for my super straight laced catholic school friends; I probably shouldn't be dating him because it just isn't fair to a person to date them but not totally support them. I felt bad then and I feel bad now that I was embarrassed by him at all; he really was a good guy, I was just not in love with him.
I wonder if everything has the same type of sorted dating history that I have... I've never really brought a boy home that I was dating. My close friends don't even get to meet a lot of the guys I've dated for the same reasons that my parents don't. My parents probably still think that I'm a virgin. I guess I don't want to bring home a boy and have my parents meet someone that I know isn't probably going to stick around for the long term.
Resigning was surprisingly short and sweet. I think I talked to the manager for a grand total of about 30 seconds. I told him that I was leaving and when my last day was, he asked "what happened?" and then if he could do anything to convince me to stay. I understand why someone would say that, but I think it's such a bad idea. If a person was just looking for a new job to get more money, and then you offer them more money, what's going to stop them leaving in another few months when they get another job offer for even more money? The base problems for what that employee was looking at other positions would more than likely still exist. The only way that I would consider it (not here of course - but in general) is if there was a major problem that was solvable and that problem was solved in order to get me to stay. I of course told him no, and then explained that I had already accepted another position and that it would be unprofessional of me to overturn that decision to stay.
I'm excited and the new place is excited about me starting. Here's to hoping that everything works out.
I think that jobs are a bit like dating. Something may look really good on paper and looks like it has everything that you want. The first couple of dates go really well and everything looks good there are no major road blocks, but then once people relax into the new relationship the bad stuff starts raining down. That grace period where both parties are still in love with each other varies in terms of time (just like dating different people) sometimes it's a few dates before the shit starts to hit the fan, sometimes it never really goes away and both people are just happy. I think my first company was like one of those relationships that's a bit awkward at first, but then it really blossoms into something great. After a while though, I think both of our habits started bugging the other person and we just needed to break up we weren't meant for the long term. My second company is like one of those dates that is really really really awkward then you keep trying to date in hopes that it will become better, but it never really does. Then the bad parts of each person come out quickly and you realize that the two of you are very poorly matched and it's just not going to work.
It really reminds me of one of the guys I dated in high school, Dan. Man, does that relationship really parallel my current work relationship. He was a weird kid, I liked some of the quirkiness, but some of it was just really strange too. Most dates were pretty normal - we'd go to the movies, go walking in the park and talk, go out to eat, make out afterwards, normal date stuff.
Then he went off to college and I was still in high school. At the time I was working at a pizza parlor part time. He would do really strange things that I think he thought was romantic, but really just turned out to be strange. Multiple times he would drive back from college for the weekend to see me, but he wouldn't tell me that he was planning on coming back. He would just order a pizza on his way home - not tell my coworkers who he was - and then just come pick it up and say hi and ask me to stop by after work. I think it was his way of trying to surprise me and be romantic, but it just felt a little creepy at the time.
I'm pretty sure I was a complete bitch to him, he totally didn't see it when I broke up with him. It was my senior year and I was in total lust over another boy (I'm still not sure that I'm completely over boy number 2 - It's still very confusing emotionally - he's the only guy I've ever met that I've had jump back an forth between my two ladders - multiple times) and really didn't want to have him meet my friends. He even asked if it was another guy - and I told him no. Which to some extent was true, I wasn't dating another boy, I was just completely lusting after him. I thought (rightfully) that if I was embarrassed to have him meet my friends - I thought that he was a little too weird for my super straight laced catholic school friends; I probably shouldn't be dating him because it just isn't fair to a person to date them but not totally support them. I felt bad then and I feel bad now that I was embarrassed by him at all; he really was a good guy, I was just not in love with him.
I wonder if everything has the same type of sorted dating history that I have... I've never really brought a boy home that I was dating. My close friends don't even get to meet a lot of the guys I've dated for the same reasons that my parents don't. My parents probably still think that I'm a virgin. I guess I don't want to bring home a boy and have my parents meet someone that I know isn't probably going to stick around for the long term.
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