Pickin' It Up
Isn't it amazing how when you are reconnected with things/people from your past - you feel really conflicted about things you never thought you could be - and totally emotionally over things you thought you would be conflicted on. Pretty amazing.
It's also been a bit of a learning experience about myself. Every time I hear about a crazy situation - I always think about how I would react and what I would do. It's not always what you thought of yourself.
I've been talking to one of my old friends from high school - (way long ago - I know) - and heard that his parents still don't really live in the same city. His dad lives away mon-fri for work - and they only really see each other over the weekend. (They did the same thing when we were in high school too.) Can you even imagine? When I started to think about how hard that must be - not only on their marriage and their relationship - but also on their kids and family in general. They must live two separate lives. How could/would you work that? I think for a short period of time - it might be "do-able" - but I have to think is it really necessary? I don't think I'd want to put up with it for that long. I think I'd feel like a stranger in my own house, my own skin, my own life after a while. After a little while I don't think I would be willing to do it anymore - and I'd have to make changes to either my lifestyle or my career.
I really value my career right now - and I don't think that I'll ever not value it. But at the same time - somethings are just more important than how much money you earn. I never thought that I'd say this - but if I had to - I think I'd give up my career plans. There's a huge caveot to this - I wouldn't give up a career - just my current career plans. I don't think that I could ever not be working. I don't know what to do with myself with my free time now. I'm much more comfortable having too much to do - than not enough. If I had to do that - I think it would be one of the hardest decisions of my life - but much better than the alternative. Time is just more important in this world than any job. Time to play, time to chill, time to do not work things. Everyone has to have outside interests - (well technically they aren't required to - but otherwise you are talking to some really boring people) and have the time to develop those - and having things that aren't stressful.
Stress leads to dying. People I care about dying makes me sad. People need interests outside of work. QED.
I have some crazy bug bites from running the other day. Like 8X area of a normal misquitoe bite. I told my mom about it. She suggested that it was fleas. Now where in the hell would I ever get flea bites? I have no pets - there's one dog in my building - who is always well taken care of - and lives in the furthest apartment away from me (Granted my building is really small - so it's not that far away - but still...) I'm still going for the radio-active misquitoes. That's got to be it.
I think I should steal Pat's Ice Cream scoop next. I could use one of those. ha!
It's also been a bit of a learning experience about myself. Every time I hear about a crazy situation - I always think about how I would react and what I would do. It's not always what you thought of yourself.
I've been talking to one of my old friends from high school - (way long ago - I know) - and heard that his parents still don't really live in the same city. His dad lives away mon-fri for work - and they only really see each other over the weekend. (They did the same thing when we were in high school too.) Can you even imagine? When I started to think about how hard that must be - not only on their marriage and their relationship - but also on their kids and family in general. They must live two separate lives. How could/would you work that? I think for a short period of time - it might be "do-able" - but I have to think is it really necessary? I don't think I'd want to put up with it for that long. I think I'd feel like a stranger in my own house, my own skin, my own life after a while. After a little while I don't think I would be willing to do it anymore - and I'd have to make changes to either my lifestyle or my career.
I really value my career right now - and I don't think that I'll ever not value it. But at the same time - somethings are just more important than how much money you earn. I never thought that I'd say this - but if I had to - I think I'd give up my career plans. There's a huge caveot to this - I wouldn't give up a career - just my current career plans. I don't think that I could ever not be working. I don't know what to do with myself with my free time now. I'm much more comfortable having too much to do - than not enough. If I had to do that - I think it would be one of the hardest decisions of my life - but much better than the alternative. Time is just more important in this world than any job. Time to play, time to chill, time to do not work things. Everyone has to have outside interests - (well technically they aren't required to - but otherwise you are talking to some really boring people) and have the time to develop those - and having things that aren't stressful.
Stress leads to dying. People I care about dying makes me sad. People need interests outside of work. QED.
I have some crazy bug bites from running the other day. Like 8X area of a normal misquitoe bite. I told my mom about it. She suggested that it was fleas. Now where in the hell would I ever get flea bites? I have no pets - there's one dog in my building - who is always well taken care of - and lives in the furthest apartment away from me (Granted my building is really small - so it's not that far away - but still...) I'm still going for the radio-active misquitoes. That's got to be it.
I think I should steal Pat's Ice Cream scoop next. I could use one of those. ha!
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He works here in cleveland and travels back to dayton every other weekend to see his wife. He used to work for a company in dayton but got laid off in the early aughts and the best job he could find was here at progressive. So he took it with the intention of moving his family up here. Well his wife doesnt want to leave the kids even though they are both grown up and moved out. She's Korean and the concept of family doesnt end at 18 for that culture.
So now he's torn. He has a good job which i think he likes but he wants to be with his family more. I think he might only work here for another year or so, which should vest his 401k then hell find another spot.